Time To Be Honest With Yourself.

This is the part of the conversation where the only path forward is to be honest with yourself. What are your weaknesses in life? What are the habits you indulge in that hold you back, weigh you down, prevent you from being your best? Really sit down, grab a pad and pen and be honest with yourself. I will be real with you about my weaknesses at the time I had to be true with myself. 

I was married with kids, low wage job, and in debt with a bad weed habit. You see, back then if you would have met me, I was more Cheech and Chong than Regional Sales Manager. I woke up, got high, went to work, snuck in a smoke at lunch during my break, got home, walked the dog, smoked again. I was a pot head, who was tight with Mary Jane brothers and sisters. 

Now, I am not going to pass judgement on you if weed is your thing. I just smoked way too much and spent more than I should have instead of being a better father, husband, and human being. It made me lazy, exposed to mistakes, and un-willing to grow up. I was okay with working as a Security Captain making $10.50 an hour, feeding my family on food stamps, and constantly late with rent. My wife had to juggle the bills in the most stressful way possible because of my weed habit. 

THAT was one of my weaknesses. The others were my fear of change, I ate like crap (addicted to Twinkies), I was bad with money, watched way too much TV, and had no vision. I was bad at math, looking at numbers, had no organizational skills whatsoever. You could have shown me a P&L, or a budget spreadsheet and it would have looked Chinese to me. So, when I started to make the changes that made me the person I am today, I began with the weed smoking. I quit cold turkey and haven't gone back since. I addressed that one anchor which weighed me down, and a better life opened up to me. 

I went after my other deficiencies with a quickness. I changed my diet to plant based only, choosing to exclude animal protein from everything I ate. That helped my body and mind recover from the years of weed abuse. I cut back from all the wasted time in front of the tube and read a whole lot more. It wasn't easy at first but having the willingness to look to at the chalkboard and wiping it clean is the best place to start. 

I didn't lie to myself, if I wasn't good at it, or it was causing me harm then it either had to go or needed to improve. That was the formula of decision I had to follow, even to this day. So, look at your weaknesses in the same way. Are you bad with money? Are you sloppy with your priorities? Do you smoke too much, drink too much, eat like crap? 

Or maybe you trust in too many people, or can't make decisions for yourself? Maybe you look at yourself as self-destructive? Have a knack at getting yourself into bad romantic relationships? Maybe you let negativity affect every aspect of your life? These are all weak points that can be attacked and defeated. Some are easy fixes; others may take time and dedication at task. Look at your weaknesses as enemies looking to take from your life, to destroy your future. Weakness in areas that are vital to success prevent you from becoming your best self. So be ruthless with these enemies, be willing to wage war one battle at a time. 

Alpha men and women are not afraid to place themselves in an uncomfortable position. They are not afraid to say YES, I need to strengthen myself, I need to defeat these deficiencies that hold me back. The desire to win in life will sustain you in every effort you make to be your best self, to unleash the Alpha within!

The Alpha.