Don't Speak Negativity....To Yourself!

In life, there may have been times that you felt no one was cheering for you on the sidelines. That when the going got tough, you didn't have anyone standing in your corner. Your mind would race with a river of negative thoughts cussing out either family, or friends, or worse.... yourself. The walls of anxiety are eating at your headspace with all four corners almost closing in on your mental "safe-space", making it tight and claustrophobic. I know this feeling all too well. 

So, how do you get out of this? How do you open up that room inside your mind?

The first place I began when this situation presented itself, past, present, and future is to stop the negative things I say within my internal dialogue. Yes, I do talk to myself, we all do. We may not verbally speak words to ourselves often, but we do have that sacred internal conversation with ourselves. Gary John Bishop wrote a book called "UNF*K Yourself" in which he said, "Most of the conversations you have on any given day are with yourself- all enjoyed in the solitude and privacy of your own head".

I am sure you have heard all the wisdom about avoiding negative people, those that choose to look at every situation in life on the "why this is a bad idea" side of the street. Rather than consider the reasons why something may work or be possible. Well, the first place you should be starting with is your inner self. How you talk to yourself when you are lost in thought is key here in this conversation. 

For years we have been programming our brain to operate a certain way in regard to our internal conversation. You can almost say that tone within your inside "voice" is stuck on autopilot. For me, the way I changed the manner in which I spoke to myself was first to defeat the voices of blame and excuses. Finding faults in everything to justify why I want to NOT do something or accept something. Excuses that stem from the laziness of simply not wanting to try. I worked hard in silencing those voices by just committing to myself to the following tenets.

1. Stop thinking, clear my mind.
2. Enter a very brief moment of meditation. Imagine a table after Thanksgiving dinner, now start clearing the mess away until you see only the table itself.
3. Now, I think of the positive affirmations. I can do this, IT CAN work, I WILL commit.
4. Follow this with affirmations to self. I came way too far to fail myself; I deserve better and will do better FOR ME! 

You are your BIGGEST supporter, your most important cheerleader. If you are not rooting for yourself, then that needs to change TODAY! Don't allow conversations of doubt, and negativity take place in your inner sanctum, your safe space. Don't beat yourself up, don't offend yourself. You wouldn't be okay with anyone coming up to you saying you're stupid, dumb, unable, etc. So why would you be okay saying language like that to yourself? We are not all experts in life, but we can promise ourselves to do better. We can't win everything in life, but we can fight and keep fighting to win every day! Stop listening to music that causes depressing thoughts, YOU DON'T NEED IT! Stop watching content that does not inspire or lift you UP! IT WON'T HELP YOU! Feed yourself positive energy, uplifting affirmations. Engage in these practices and you WILL be your biggest supporter, and I am rooting for you!

The Alpha